For Sleep Training Information and Tips, click here. For our Sleep Consultation Services, click here. Sleep Training Toddlers and Older Children Many parents struggle to get their toddlers to maintain a consistent sleep schedule. It’s never too late to improve your child’s sleep habits. Using healthy sleep strategies such as following a bedtime routine and teaching your child to go to sleep independently can make a world of a difference for the health and well-being of both the children and parents. What do typical toddler sleep habits look like? Most toddlers need 12-14 hours of sleep per 24 hours Between 12-18 months, naps typically decrease from two to one per day Between ages 2 and 4, most toddlers move from cribs to toddler bed and then eventually regular beds Most toddlers do not look forward to sleeping Common sleep-related issues with toddlers: Difficulty falling asleep independently Waking up in the middle of the night crying Waking up too early or falling asleep too late Sleep regression: change in sleep pattern such as difficulty or inconsistent sleep Separation anxiety: increase in clinginess, especially around nap-or-bedtime resulting in changes in daytime behavior What can trigger sleep disruptions for toddlers? Environment: Toddlers are increasingly aware of their surroundings, which can distract them from falling asleep Imagination: Their growing imagination can impact their sleep habits Discomfort: Teething or sickness can affect restfulness and increase crying and irritability Mild separation anxiety: Fear of being removed from a caregiver can arise in toddlers Nightmares and Night Terrors: Toddlers can feel distressed by nightmares or night terrors because they have difficulty distinguishing these from reality Bedtime Fears: Increased fears the dark and/or of monsters can emerge at this age New bed: Transitions from a crib to a bed can be difficult and increase stress Family transitions: Increased stress among parents or within the family as well as major changes to routine or family structure can change sleep habits Signs your toddler may not be getting enough sleep: Irritability Poor concentration Lower frustration tolerance Over-activity or hyperactivity (presents as being wide-awake when in fact overtired) Sleepiness during the day Changes in their appetite Physical complaints, like headaches Methods to improve your toddler’s sleep routines: Have a consistent bedtime Establish a bedtime routine where one activity is linked to the next ending in bed (PJs → Brush teeth → Book → Bed) Set clear limits, such as the number of books to read Practice “dream rehearsals” together, where you change the ending of a nightmare to make dreams less scary Wind down the environment: ensure bedtime is quiet and your child is engaging in relaxing activities, such as bathtime, reading a bedtime story, and lowering the lights Turn off electronics at least 30 minutes before bedtime Use a night light if your child is afraid of the dark Allow security or comfort items like a stuffed animal in bed to help them feel more relaxed Be mindful of books or screen time that can stimulate the child; keep content mild If you need to go into their room, night time visits should be brief and boring for your toddler – assure them that they are ok and leave the room If your child awakens early, keep blinds closed and ensure the room remains dark Use a “ready to wake” clock that lights up when it is “morning” an an appropriate time for your child to start their day If you typically spend time in your bedroom, reverse your routine and spend more time in their room; sit in a chair, dim the lights, and make their room feel relaxing If your child suffers from inconsistent sleep patterns that affect their behavior during the day – and their issues persist despite your efforts to improve their sleep – talk to your child’s pediatrician. Your family may benefit from a sleep consultation to discuss sleep training and other recommendations to improve sleep and overall functioning. Sleep Training Consultations: Service Options Dr. Francyne Zeltser, PsyD, is a child, adolescent and adult psychologist, certified school psychologist, adjunct professor, and mother of two. She offers sleep training services by phone, virtually, or in-person in your NYC-area home or our Upper West Side office. Contact us for more information or to schedule a consultation. Our personalized Sleep Training consultations include: Assessment of the child’s sleeping problems to identify specific challenges Customized sleep training plan to meet your needs Specific instructions and guidance to reach sleep goals Detailed feeding and sleeping schedules Tailored guidance for multiples, if needed Follow-up support by text, phone, or email
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